A judgment of a person based on a cultural understanding may assume things about that person, but it may be not open to the uniqueness of the person’s individual experience. Check things off the list of things that person may or may mot be.
The individual should be understood carefully as an individual. Knowing the uniqueness of each individual and human experience does not use select pieces of information to assess or judge a person but is open to understanding everyone’s journey. As a writer, this can form the basis of knowing intimately a character, perhaps uncomfortably so, and even then the writer is only representing the character and does not know everything about it.
In life, everyone knows their own journey and the load they must carry even if no one else really does know everything about it. But I believe we can try to know and carry each other’s burdens as much as sensibly possible. And even if no one does know, I believe God does know best anyhow, who can be a great friend in truly knowing us, when we are in good times or bad.