Waiting can be excruciating, but waiting is not just standing there, doing nothing, thinking nothing, feeling nothing. When we feel something negative as we wait, that can make waiting worse. When we don’t care, that can make waiting better. Actually, anticipation is the crux of waiting, for good or ill. We don’t wait emptily. We are a seething mass of anxiety while we wait. Or we don’t care. Better to not care, if possible.